Reasons why people date

People date or engage in relationship because;

v  They  feel   lonely

v  To   feel     loved.

v  For     financial      support   from    the    dude.

v  To     feel     secured.

v  Of desperation.

v  To   revenge    so   that   our   x   can    get     hurt.

But    are     these real reasons   why    people   should     get     hooked    up   with    someone?   I don’t think so. We   should   only be in relationship when we are:

      Financially stable.

      Psychologically. fit

      Physically   fit.

      Ready to love and care

      Willing to take upcoming responsibilities.

We should  not  just get in  relationships for  the  sake of it we  should first  give  ourselves time in everything    that  involve  love   so that we   may  not  and  up  in heartbreaks.

We should create  strong   foundation  in  marriage  because  that’s  an  institution  on  its own  father  being  the  head.

According  to  where  I come  from  men  don’t  like  hooking up  with  working  class  ladies  reasons  being  that  they  are  hard to  control ,such  ladies think that what a man  can do a woman can do  it better.

I  would encourage  all  women of  substance out there  to   go to school so that they can learn their  right such as  there are men who like  asking their wives to have sex  when they are in their  periods  which is not advisable since it has  some health issues.

Desperation  is  an  emotional  state  that  can  lead    us  to choose the  wrong  partner  whom  we were  not   intended  to  engage  with.

Example;

When  a man  learns  that a lady  is desperate  he  can use all means   possible  and lure the girl by  giving  her  gifts and showing her false  love  which  most cases ends  up  in either sex  or contracting  sexual diseases  .

There was a gal in my estate who loved to do a nursing course as her career .when she finished her form four. she  was  lucky    to get   the  required  grade  and the next  step was  to go and get  the  forms of  that  college , sadly enough the dad didn’t  have enough money  to  take her to that  school and the next option was to repeat    form  4  and she was very  heart broken she cried but there  no one  to save her  from   her agony .

Luckily she meets a young man whom   was ready to help to help her out. At first the man pretended to   assist her out. he  told the girl  to go and get the forms in his  house and because the girl was  desperate of  that course she went without thinking   twice ‘ the man decided to use that opportunity to  misuse  the  right of the girl by  forcing her to  have sex  .he later locked the  girl in his house  for  one week  raping the girl .

Luckily the girl was restored by the neighbors. So you girls out there don’t let this state   take control of you. Always avoid shortcuts in life.

I wish you all the best to young ladies who are looking for mates.

Happiness in poverty and   unhappiness in riches.

Once upon a time the saints used to walk on  earth . there lived this small couples who used to lived in ancient Greek  .they were very welcoming and they could share whatever small meal that they had with strangers . one day  an old man visited  there homestead and as usual  the lady  went to their store and removed the small meal that  was left for that day .

The man had gone to hunt so the wife was left alone in the house to do all the chores . the man was served  with  delicious meal and he was very grateful   for that and  as a results he decided to give her a reward  in return . they were given  three wishes  . the woman was very happy when  she heard the good news and at once she wished that the husband was  there , immediately her husband appeared .

The man was very  shocked since his  memories  reminded him that  he  had  not finished  what he was doing in the field s    . the wife  informed   her husband  what was  happening and immediately  the man  got very  furious  because the wife  wasted the first  wish  . he immediately  wished  that the  ears of the wife  changed to that of a donkey  . his  wish was granted to him  and her ears  grew  very big . the  woman  touched her ears and  she   started  crying  ,on seeing that  the man  knelled  down  and  holded her  wife tight  .he pronounced his last  wish and hoped  that  the wife ‘s ears got  back to normal . immediately  she  recovered   . they both  raised up  and hugged  each  other . the saint    reminded  them that  there can be  happiness even   without  wealth  and  riches  because even if the man could have  asked for big things as his last wish he could not have enjoyed  seeing the  condition of    the wife   they were blessed with a child soon after that  they lived happily there after.is a good thing to control our feelings and  emotions , learn to  forgive  and  above all love .